Whether the issue is a general lack of confidence for most things in every day life or a lack of confidence to do something specific, attend an interview, go on a date or speak in public for example the problem usually stems from our 'self-talk'.
It's what we tell ourselves about the situation which determines our confidence level.
A great example of this is quoted by Dr Barbara Markway author of the Self-confidence workbook.
Try this exercise to see how self-talk affects your confidence.
Imagine you’re walking down the street and you see someone on the other side walking toward you. You get a little closer and recognize the person as someone you know from your Zumba class. You look up, smile, wave, and shout “Hi!” The other person keeps walking and doesn’t acknowledge you. There are many ways you could interpret this situation.
What would you say to yourself?
- A. She must not like me. I’m such a loser.
- B. She must not have seen me.
- C. She’s so stuck up. I can’t believe she didn’t say hi.
Now, imagine how you’d feel in each case:
- If you thought to yourself, “She must not like me,” you’d likely feel sad, embarrassed, or something along those lines.
- If you thought to yourself, “She must not have seen me,” you’d likely feel pretty neutral, or maybe simply a little disappointed.
- If you answered C, you might feel angry.
Notice that the event is the same. The only thing that has changed is your interpretation of the situation, or what you’re saying to yourself. But what you say to yourself has a huge impact on your confidence if your first reaction in all such situations is similar to A then your self esteem and confidence is likely to be consistently low.
Solution Focused Hypnotherapy can help you change your 'self-talk' and in this way significantly boost your confidence.
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